My Top 7 Favourite Long Distance Relationship Videos

I am a romantic. I love a good love story. I love listening to my friends talk about their partners with so much joy and affection. Especially when you can hear the love in their voices. Haha, I guess I am friends with the right people. Everyone's love story is different. Be it close proximity relationships or long distance relationship. Out of my close girlfriends, two of us are in long distance relationships (including me). We are each other's support system, but life and work often get in the way of us to meet up for hugs and support. So I find other ways to ease this empty void of loneliness - work, playing futsal, meeting up with friends and etc. One of the things I found myself trying to 'get by' on hard days is looking for other couples to relate to. Couples who are also in long distance relationships. This was before LDRBN reached out to me. I found it on Youtube! I don't know what came across me one day to search 'long distance relationship' on Youtube. When the search turned up with SO MANY videos of couples in LDRs. I was ecstatic! A few tears were shed that night and it made me very hopeful of my relationship. 

Watching long distance relationships has definitely made me more positive of my relationship. When we first started going out, I was a little hesitant because the distance was not our only hurdle. We have so many hurdles to overcome especially when we both come different cultures. These videos (particularly interracial LDRs) gave me a lot of hopes. The couples were really positive and optimistic and truly appreciated their relationship enough to make videos of it! Some of the videos were awesomely edited! I will say this again and again, I feel really blessed that Don and I have it easy compared to other LDRs. I can't complain. 

Below are some of my favorite long distance relationship youtube videos! I hope you enjoy them.

Interracial Relationships: Clash of Cultures

If you spend some time with Don and me, you can tell that we're two different people but very alike. We have the same ideas of what we want in life, our passions, what we think about aliens, personal goals and etc. The "different" thing about us is we both grew up in different cultures. As we are dating, a few clashes came up that we often talk (and laugh) about. They're no deal breakers, just things that would come up for interracial couples. Here are some clash of cultures I face with Don.

How To Deal With Long-Distance Breakups

Recently, I found out that one of my LDR buddies broke up with her boyfriend. Really sad times... We had a chat about it – she seemed okay, but I knew deep down she was a sad and disappointed about the breakup. As she was telling me what happen, I started having flashbacks about MY long-distance breakup. I was in an LDR with my previous boyfriend when I first moved to Australia. We didn’t break up because of the distance (as a couple, we had too many issues) but the distance contributed to the breakup.

No break up is easy. Especially if it’s a long-term relationship. I’ve been heart broken many times and in my experience, breaking up when you’re in a long-distance relationship is the easiest and the hardest thing to go through. Easy because… you were already leading a “single” life. Your SO was hardly around you to feel the loss. You don’t feel the physical loss. Hard because… it’s emotionally draining. What you feel the most is the emotional loss. No one to talk to at night before bed. No one “there” for you when you need someone. No one to make you laugh. No one to tell you jokes.

5 Ways To Afford Trips To See Your Long-Distance Partner

When Don and I first started our long-distance relationship, we knew that it was going to be a lot of work, time and money. We are both working our first job after graduating uni and earning entry level wage (which is not much). But you know, we are both in love, young and eager to see the world together. We had to make it work even if we have to eat cheap, cut down on things and save. I guess, we are pretty lucky in the sense that Don’s currency is WAY higher than mine. Traveling to me is SUPER cheap for him but me traveling to him is SUPER expensive for me. It would cost him two weeks salary to afford a flight ticket, accommodation + food to Malaysia while it would cost me a month salary to afford flight and money to move around. Despite all the travel costs and having to save diligently every month, every penny is worth it when I get to see my smiley, handsome man when I walk out the gate.

Here’s are some tips on how I save to afford trips to see Don in Australia.

25 Things I Hope To Do When We Close The Distance

Here’s a sappy post from a girl who misses her other half. Don has been going through a stressful time at work and I am feeling like the WORST girlfriend ever because I can’t do anything. I can’t hug him to make him feel better. Make him a nice cup of tea to de-stress him. Can’t sit next to him to watch Netflix. I feel so helpless… I can only offer him kind words of encouragement and affection. THAT’S IT! And I know, he needs more than just words. :( I tried to send him flowers, but because he is living in the freaking countryside. There was a little confusion and mix up, he didn’t get the flowers on the day it was supposed to be delivered.

5 Racist Things I Have Said To My White boyfriend

I come from Malaysia where it's a melting pot of culture, race, and traditions. A culture integrated of Malays, Chinese, and Indians. Culture clashes often happen, but rarely. When it comes to racism, it's the sort of thing where it's okay for a mother to call her kid "naughty" when they have done something mischievous but NOT okay when other mothers call her kid "naughty". Same for me, it's totally fine for my (Chinese or Indian) friends to call me a stereotype of my race BUT totally not cool if someone else does it. I often forget that Don and I are from two different cultures because we have very similar beliefs, personal goals that have nothing to do with culture. Once in a while, my Malaysian honesty comes out... in the form of foot in the mouth way. Here are five racist things I said to my Australian boyfriend.

Advice for Long Distance Relationships: Don't Do It!

I am in a long distance relationship and I don't encourage you to be in one.

I won't sugarcoat it and anyone in a long distance relationship will also say that same. IT SUCKS BIG TIME. It's not awesome. It's not fun. It's emotionally draining. It's lonely. I especially don't encourage it for people who are in their teens and early 20s (Let's call them "prime years" for the sake of this post, I know everyone has different ages of "prime years"). I feel like long distance (relationships) are done because the couple has to go through it. It's not something you do because you want to. It's because you have to. It's almost like a trap. Now, why would you want to put yourself in a theoretical trap? When you're in your prime years, you're still learning about yourself. You're not 100% sure of what you want.

5 Benefits of Dating Someone From A Different Culture

One of the many perks of dating Don is that he is from a different culture. We gain this new view of how the world works. Not only that, we get to learn about their values, the food, religion and each other's country. Ever since Don and I started dating, I feel like our relationship has broadened my eyes from this little bubble in living in, if not overall made it better. 

Let me tell how... with the first being my favourite!

Defining Moment: How I Knew He Was The One Before Saying I Love You

Our Story: Don and Khaira

Things They Don't Tell You When You Are in a LDR (Post holiday blues)

The first couple days back after being with Don 24/7 for days is the hardest. I was so lost and pined for him. People always talk about how good it is to see your partner after months apart and spending quality time together, but they fail to mention, what happens when we have to say goodbye for the umpteenth time.

4 Ways On How To Stay In A Relationship With Yourself Whilst Being In A Relationship.

People are creatures of habit. We wake up, have breakfast, go to work, go home, have dinner, sleep and repeat. Same like relationships – as much as we don’t want to admit this, there is that one relationship in our lifetime, where we stay a little too long because we are comfortable. It might be hard to admit, but at some point of your relationship, you and your significant other have form a habit/routine together - order the same takeout every day, watch a movie on the same day of the every week, sex in the same position and get caught up in the bubble that you forget that you are moving into the danger zone = settling. Settling means no good. No good for you. 

1. Establish what you want from the beginning.

This is probably going to be a very hard thing to do. Especially when you are up on cloud 9 in love with your significant other.  I think this is where most couple struggle doing - establishing what they want from the relationship. It can be as simple as sex, attention, companionship, marriage and etc. When you get down from your cloud 9 - have a conversation with your partner about your future plans, your beliefs, your family traditions or your views on the Kardashians/Honey Boo Boo. When you know what you want, this will set the foundation of your relationship.

2. Don’t go with the flow.

Again, people have a habit of going with the flow. When the flow doesn’t go where we want it to, we blame it on #life. You set your flow. You set your own path. If you don’t like your current path, change it. It’s fine to include your partner in it, but don’t set your pace to his. You shouldn’t be with anyone who holds you back. Relationships are selfish. You take what you need from your partner and vice versa. Don’t get sucked into it. You look after your own happiness. 

3. Listen and Look.

Love is blind. Listen to the people around you. They see it. You don't. If your family isn't keen on your current boyfriend, there is a reason why and it's best you talk to them. Your friends can't stand being around your S.O, something is seriously wrong. Or are always asking you when are you dumping this guy? Are you are still seeing him? Don't you think you can do so much better? Don't hate them for it. Question it! Ask why they are saying these things. It can be a little hard to listen to love ones when they hate on your S.O. It can come off as they are not supporting you but try to take a step back and think about it. 

Look at how he treats the women in his life. Mother. Sisters. Girlfriends. His relationship with his the important women in his life will be the same way he treats you. If he is screaming and talking down to his mother, say bye bye now. 

4. Don’t Wait

Your dreams/adventures/inspirations/goals are yours. Don’t sacrifice something just because your S.O isn’t happy with it or keen on doing. You want to go on that trip with your girlfriends and your S.O is giving you a hard time about it. You love watching horror films in the cinema and your S.O is not a fan of horror films. Find someone else to watch it with you or watch it yourself. There are options. Talk it out, if you guys can’t compromise something... That should be a red flag for you. Also, be more proactive with yourself! It’s totally fine to test your relationship in the early stages. Go on a holiday early in the relationship, if you guys can go through 5 days with each other 24/7 without fighting. You guys are gold.

Remember, you only accept the love you think you deserve. If you think you deserve more than you are currently at right now. Go get it!