It all started when I was scrolling my Facebook feed and came across an article from Refinery29 about stackable rings. I usually don't pay attention to ring because I have fat knuckles. I feel really self-conscious wearing them. This all started when I was 16 years old, I asked for a ring from my parents for my birthday. I wanted something symbolic and long lasting to commemorate me becoming a pre-adult. LOL. I was happy with any ring from a jewelry store, but my mom surprised me and said I could pick a ring from Tiffany & Co. I picked out this ring from their Please Return To Tiffany & Co New York.
When we were trying the ring, I couldn't fit the standard sizes because my knuckles were big/swollen? I don't know. Can't really remember the details but the sales lady said to me "You need to get the big one because you have fat fingers". Gosh, her words pierced right through my 16-year-old heart. As it is I felt really bad that we had to pay a bit more, than the normal price because the bigger ring size, the more expensive it is. I felt even worse after she said that. I was happy with my ring but felt REALLY self-conscious whenever someone wanted to have a look at it. It been 10 years since that incident and I have learned to accept and love my body for the way it is. The T&Co ring now fits loosely on my fingers and it no longer reminds me of what that horrible lady said to me. Never tell a young girl that she is the F-word. No matter what body part.
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| I put a ring on it. |
So, stackable rings. I did endless of online research and finally settled on Pandora's stackable ring selection. They're pretty, trendy and affordable. It took me a while to get them because I was still feeling a little self-conscious and I didn't want to spend money on something I won't wear. To get me used to wear rings daily, I did a customized ring from essa.co. I wanted something that represented Don and I in the least corny, cliche way. I customized our inside joke #done (long story).
Fast forward to when Don was here in KL to visit me. The stackable rings have been on my mind for a couple of months now. We were at a mall when I saw the Pandora booth and decided that,"Okay! I am going to get it now!". I bought two rings with intentions to match a silver band I have another set of stackable rings, my mom gifted my sister and I. I was really pleased with myself. It was so pretty! I could stop looking at it!
Don got a little WTF with me. He was taken back that I bought the rings in front of him. He said it was a boyfriend thing to do. It didn't even cross my mind that he would have an opinion about it because, I dont know? It's a girl thing? Whenever I ask for his opinions on my makeup, anything fashion related and even the rings when I was doing my research, he didn't pay attention. Now, I felt bad that I didn't ask for his opinion! Don offered to pay for half the rings. I thought okay, you can if you want to. After a while, I said no because the ring is from me, for me.
That was the first issue.
The second issue was... the finger I wore the ring. I tried the rings on all my fingers and the finger that looked the nicest with the rings on is my wedding finger. Don felt uneasy. He didn't want people to get the wrong impression and ask questions. I understood where he was coming from, but at the same time I kept asking him - "Why not?". I don't see anything wrong with it. My reason is... it's 2015. There are such things as #ringselfies now. Kylie Jenner who just turned 18 is wearing a ring on her wedding finger and we all know that she is NOT engaged. I am not trying to degrade the symbolic meaning of the engagement ring. I am not breaking traditions. I just wearing a gorgeous set of rings. On my wedding finger. People are smart enough now to think that she is wearing a gorgeous ring and not think oh, are they engaged?
To me, I see as it as me wearing a beautiful set of rings that has potential to boost my confidence and improve my overall look. Wearing a ring of my unwed finger may raise many questions - Who bought it for you? Why are you wearing it on that finger? There will always be something said for when someone is donning a gorgeous piece of jewelry. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if you're married or not and what people's views on traditions are. If the rings fits on my wedding finger, i will wear it on that finger.
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| Love it! |
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| #fingerselfie |
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