I love texting. I love how easy it's to communicate with Don over text. If it wasn't for texting, Don and I wouldn't have gotten together. Texting cuts the anxiety, nervousness and social awkwardness of trying to talk to someone for the first time. We're able to express a lot more when we text someone because there is no pressure of the person standing in front of you expecting an answer ASAP. Even though it's easier to express your feelings on a text message, there are still some things that should be said over a phone call or in person ESPECIALLY if you're in a long-distance relationship like myself.
Breakup Text
Breaking up over text is a big no. It leaves you with unfinished business and leftover feelings. It doesn't give you much closure. To be honest, it is pretty rude. You were in a relationship with someone the least you can do if you want to end thing is to talk to them face to face.
Fights
If you have fought with someone over text, you can vouch that message are often misinterpreted. We are full of emotions and when we type something over text, the person receiving it may not understand the tone. It's really easy to send an angry text, but it is best to have the conversation over the phone or in person
Money
Money is a really sensitive topic to begin with. The thing about text message is, the message stay on your phone for as long as you don't delete it. So imagine, if you mistakenly said something that didn't jive right with your SO, they will read that message over and over again. It's fine to talk small money, but the big serious ones require a proper conversation.
Criticism
No matter how bad it is, criticisms or saying something negative about someone or to someone should never be done on a text. Again, it's rude. It's mean. You could at least give them the decency of a phone call or in-person conversation. Again like money, that one bad text will remain on their phone as a reminder why they suck for as long as it is on their phone.
Bad News
This one is mostly dedicated to long-distance relationships. No bad news should ever be shared via text. It ranges from many things like a relative passed away, I can't come for the holidays and etc. You and your SO are far apart as it is. Sending them a "bad news" is kind of mean because you catch them off guard. You should gather your courage and pick up the phone.
Serious Future Plans
I am guilty of this. I would often send Don long texts about our future plans. We would have a short round of text back and forth and he will end it with "Talk later tonight" - when we have our nightly calls. Honestly, it feels so much better to have future plan conversation over the phone.
What other conversations do you reckon should not be over text?
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