Long distance relationship is NOT for everyone. There are some people who are made for long distance relationship and some are not. The idea of being with someone far away is not ideal for them. They need to have their partners around, if not they'll get bored and lonely. LDR truly take a lot of time for them to work, let alone last. If you're considering the decision of being in an LDR, take some time to think about it with your partner. Do you think you are cut out for LDRs? Find out below!
1. You don’t have a future plan
This is should be a red flag from the beginning. When you get into an LDR, there has to be some sort of 'future plan' planned out. Eg: When are you guys seeing each other next? How long will we do the distance? A future plan is really important.
2. Physical intimacy means a lot to you
If you can’t have it on the daily and considering ways to get it somewhere else. Then, you are definitely not cut out for LDR. This is the part where patience will play its name to the tee!
3. You feel incomplete without your partner
This is really normal. There are couples who want to do everything with their partners. Doing groceries, checking out a shop, go to the movies, try this new restaurant in town and etc. When you don't do all the things mentioned with your partner, you feel lost and incomplete. Being in an LDR, also helps you learn how to be independent and self-reliant. And have a life.
4. You think long distance is all fun but no work
Those weekends, weekly and bi-monthly visits are fun! You guys get to see each other and be a normal couple again. But in order to get the time off to see each other, you need to work for the money to fly or drive over to your partner's place. Plan out things to maximise the time. Talk to each other daily to keep up the relationship. Sounds easy, but its a lot of effort.
5. You hate being on your phone (texting, calling, sending photos)
Welcome to the 21st century where communications now rely on your smartphones. Everyone is on it. If you find yourself looking for excuses to not text, call or communicated with your long distance partner, then you definitely don't want to be in a long distance relationship.
6. You crave physical intimacy often
You need to hug them, kiss them, touch them or just have their 'presence' around.
You need to hug them, kiss them, touch them or just have their 'presence' around.
7. You can't handle loneliness
It can get real loneliness, but if you know a way to combat the loneliness with a good distraction, you'll be fine.
8. You get jealous easily
Jealousy is a very ugly trait and sometimes very hard to control. If you get jealous easily and spend more time worrying about who your partner is hanging out with, talking to or are they doing something behind your back. It's time to walk away...
9. You have trust issues
When you have trust issues in your relationships, you're putting one foot out from the door.
When you have trust issues in your relationships, you're putting one foot out from the door.
10. You have a super busy schedule (work is more important)
How are you going to make time to see your partner? Are you willing to use your time-off to see them?
11. You are not serious about the person you are in the long distance relationship
Why are you even in one?
12. You hate talking
In LDRs, you will talk a lot because that's the only thing you can do with your partner. If talking is not your thing, then LDR is not for you.
It's always best to know what you want before getting yourself in an LDR and understand the consequences. When you half-heartedly put yourself in an LDR, it's not going to work out. I hope this has been helpful for you! Do you have any other indicators that show a person who is not cut out for LDRs? Let me know in the comments below, I would love to hear from you. :) Good luck.
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