the M word

There isnt a day where i go without someone telling me or me finding out on Facebook that omg! Do you know this person?? or that person?? is engaged, getting engaged, having a bachelorette party, getting married, married, pregnant and just had a baby.

It has come to a point where... my highschool friends (Pluto FTW!) created a group on Whatsapp. Whenever we find out someone from school or any mutual friend is in any of the categories above, we would screenshot and share amongst us. I have an embrassing amount of "friends" wedding photos in my phone.

My friends are in the age group (25-30 y/o) where getting married is the next thing. I like you, you like me, we dated for years, so now we get married. Its scary but at the same time, really exciting! Haha! Because... i hang out with different groups of friends on the daily where one group is getting married and the other is...far from the M word or still looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend. My bestfriend is getting married in 4 months! She is the first in my group of girls, so everytime we meet, its all wedding talk. Being a girl, as much as you think you are far from the M word, you cant help but to envision your ~wedding~. After months of talking wedding with my girlfriends and resisting the urge to create my "dream wedding" board on Pinterest, i succumbed to it. This may or may not be a hint to Don: my dream ring is in there. After hours of mindless pinteresting... i realised that, the more i looked at wedding related things, the more i didnt want a wedding.

The whole idea of a big fancy wedding doesnt appeal to me. Inviting 600-700 guests, people you may or may not know... is just... wasteful to me. Spending thousands on a hall, decorations, food and flowers is just....cringeful. I believe that weddings should be an initimate affair celebrated between you and your husband, both families and closest friends. But I want that wall of flowers Kim Kardashian had at her wedding with Kanye for my wedding. I believe in the "symbolic" ideas of a wedding. I care about the ring. My reason, other than marrying the love of your life, your bestfriend for life and etc, the ring is one of the most meaningful gift a man can give to his wife because it represent a new life you are both creating. I care about culture/traditions - families blessings, wearing your grandmother's earrings/neckalace, wearing grandfather's watch, and etc. I care about uniting two families.

Naturally, when wedding bells are ringing, both our best friends are getting in the same month and having conversations like this..

Don: Morning bub, sleep well last night?
Kay: Stayed up Pinteresting my dream wedding

...would lead to us talking about our next thing.

Kay: If we get married, we would have one ceremony here in KL and another one in Perth. Maybe we can have the engagement party in Perth and the wedding here. ...continues talking about weddings. 
Don: hold up girl, you are forgetting something here, *I* have to ask you to marry me first!

Bertuah betul laki ni.

I shall end this post a very appropriate song.