To happiness!

DON in KL

Don came over to KL a week ago to see me!!! It was his first time in KL and i had the best time taking him places, letting him eat my favourite foods and meeting my people. It felt so nice to be in my baby's arms again and just do boyfriend-girlfriend things. 

Malaysian food is about spices, heat and rice. I was really surprised and very pleased that Don can handle the food! I am not being bias but Malaysia is about FOOD. And we have good food. We had Nirwana, Berjaya, Sri Pandi, Fatty Crab, Sambal Hijau to name a few. I forget that Don is a big guy and eats double of what i eat. So we ate alot...ALOT. I had tummy aches the whole time he was here from overeating. *Sad face*

Hey stranger

How are you doing? Its so weird addressing you in general. We havent spoken in months nor have i seen a single impression of you on social media. Given that you blocked me off all social media, after our last conversation. I felt pretty safe, leading life on my social media. It was until I was in my 2nd instagram account when i stumbled across your photo. You forgot that account. When i scrolled past your photo, my heart skipped a beat. Wow. It's you. I felt this overwhelming feeling of...sadness.

Its okay to want.

I am driven by goals. By achievements. By excel sheets and everything black and white. I can be a little straight. But! haha, if the rules and regulations dont go my way, i will work my way around it. I have a life plan and know what i want.

Had a very interesting conversation with my brother the other day. I hardly get to hang out with my brother - him having a VERY active 19months baby girl and recently a new baby boy. He is busy with work, tired and overwhelmed with two babies in the house.

We were in the car on the way home and he asked me.

4 Ways On How To Stay In A Relationship With Yourself Whilst Being In A Relationship.

People are creatures of habit. We wake up, have breakfast, go to work, go home, have dinner, sleep and repeat. Same like relationships – as much as we don’t want to admit this, there is that one relationship in our lifetime, where we stay a little too long because we are comfortable. It might be hard to admit, but at some point of your relationship, you and your significant other have form a habit/routine together - order the same takeout every day, watch a movie on the same day of the every week, sex in the same position and get caught up in the bubble that you forget that you are moving into the danger zone = settling. Settling means no good. No good for you. 

1. Establish what you want from the beginning.

This is probably going to be a very hard thing to do. Especially when you are up on cloud 9 in love with your significant other.  I think this is where most couple struggle doing - establishing what they want from the relationship. It can be as simple as sex, attention, companionship, marriage and etc. When you get down from your cloud 9 - have a conversation with your partner about your future plans, your beliefs, your family traditions or your views on the Kardashians/Honey Boo Boo. When you know what you want, this will set the foundation of your relationship.

2. Don’t go with the flow.

Again, people have a habit of going with the flow. When the flow doesn’t go where we want it to, we blame it on #life. You set your flow. You set your own path. If you don’t like your current path, change it. It’s fine to include your partner in it, but don’t set your pace to his. You shouldn’t be with anyone who holds you back. Relationships are selfish. You take what you need from your partner and vice versa. Don’t get sucked into it. You look after your own happiness. 

3. Listen and Look.

Love is blind. Listen to the people around you. They see it. You don't. If your family isn't keen on your current boyfriend, there is a reason why and it's best you talk to them. Your friends can't stand being around your S.O, something is seriously wrong. Or are always asking you when are you dumping this guy? Are you are still seeing him? Don't you think you can do so much better? Don't hate them for it. Question it! Ask why they are saying these things. It can be a little hard to listen to love ones when they hate on your S.O. It can come off as they are not supporting you but try to take a step back and think about it. 

Look at how he treats the women in his life. Mother. Sisters. Girlfriends. His relationship with his the important women in his life will be the same way he treats you. If he is screaming and talking down to his mother, say bye bye now. 

4. Don’t Wait

Your dreams/adventures/inspirations/goals are yours. Don’t sacrifice something just because your S.O isn’t happy with it or keen on doing. You want to go on that trip with your girlfriends and your S.O is giving you a hard time about it. You love watching horror films in the cinema and your S.O is not a fan of horror films. Find someone else to watch it with you or watch it yourself. There are options. Talk it out, if you guys can’t compromise something... That should be a red flag for you. Also, be more proactive with yourself! It’s totally fine to test your relationship in the early stages. Go on a holiday early in the relationship, if you guys can go through 5 days with each other 24/7 without fighting. You guys are gold.

Remember, you only accept the love you think you deserve. If you think you deserve more than you are currently at right now. Go get it!